Ways To Defeat A Bully Without Fighting!

How To Defeat A Bully

We are forced to deal with various attacks on our self-esteem on a regular basis. Bullying is a part of life for some people. Whether you are a child or adult, how we deal with bullying and its repercussions can vary dramatically.

Incidences of bullying vary in severity. One thing that is certain is that repeated attacks erodes self-esteem. Bullying can be linked to drug use, violence, and suicide. You, or your child, do not have to be a victim.

The assault can be verbal or physical; either way the first line of defence remains the same. Self-Confidence. Some bullies have low confidence themselves, tending to attack those who look weak. There are countless reasons someone gets targeted, and sometimes there is no reason at all.

Walk with your head high, your shoulders square, and make eye contact. These small changes will help victims of bullying gain confidence. As a result, they will be bullied less. This is easier said than done, but it can be learned. A change in body language can have a huge impact.

Parents can help develop self-confidence in their children by showing love and spending time with them. You can give children feelings of self worth by telling them what they do well, helping them overcome obstacles, and teaching them how to communicate with others.

Adults can build self-confidence by taking part in activities that they enjoy, interacting with others, and making friends with common interests. Find things that you do well and allow yourself to have pride in your accomplishments. Don’t allow someone to push you around, bullies come in all ages, some never grow up. Juvenile behaviour follows us out of school and into the work place, and is often swept under the rug.

If someone treats you with disrespect bring it to the attention of others if it cannot be dealt with alone.

9 ways to defeat the bully without fighting

1. Make Friends. Treat the bully with the respect, chances are they have been treated badly and they are deflecting their feelings of anger towards you. Treat others the way you wish to be treated.

2. Walk Away. Don’t waste your valuable time on a bully.

3. Let it go. Imagine a bully yelling at you, insulting you to the point where you feel rage building up inside. Take it with a smile, remember what their saying isn’t true, and even if it is, show them that you’re not going to let them affect you. It is what YOU think about yourself that matters most. It is also a good idea to remember that many people bully because someone else is bullying them.

4. Refuse to fight. The winner of the fight is the one who avoids it. What are five ways you can refuse to fight? What can you say? What could you do? How can you convince the bully that you win by not fighting?

5. Stand up to the bully. Stick up for yourself. It may be frightening to stand up to a bully, but many people may benefit from your courage. You are most likely not the only one being picked on. What are five ways you can stick up for yourself?

6. Yell! A powerful shout can end conflict before it starts. Do you know how to yell loudly? It is a good idea to practice where no one will hear and come running, or call the police because they think someone needs help. A good yell can catch a bully by surprise and throw him or her off guard.

7. Ignore the Threat. Like bamboo, bend in the wind. If you say hurtful things you become the bully. What are five ways you cannot give in to feelings of revenge?

8. Use Authority. Call someone with the authority to help you end the conflict. Calling a parent, teacher or boss is not being a “tattle-tale” as many people believe. It has a higher goal, stopping a fight before it starts. It takes courage to stand up and ask for help. Who are five people you could call on for help?

9. Reason with the bully. Ask them why they are treating you with disrespect, most of the time they don’t have a reason. Asking what the problem is can bring to attention the ridiculousness of their behaviour. 10. If it comes to physical violence, take a martial arts stance. Only when all else fails can we prepare for the worst. If you have tried everything you can and the bully tries to physically harm you, use self-defence. Remember we study Martial Arts so we can defend ourselves, but we also learn it so we can discover all of the ways to avoid having to do so. If we do fight, we take time to contemplate if we could have done something to prevent it. Make sure you try to come up with one of those ways before you use martial arts.